Over the past few years, I have accumulated a few different popular logos that may sound silly, but in fact, are fantastic mottos to keep in mind when dealing with everyday life or difficult situations. In this post, I have decided to define and explain three of these mottos that I attempt to use in my own daily life, and will often recommend to clients as well.
- NO SHAME IN YOUR GAME– As crass and pretentious as this may come off, it is a great phrase to keep in mind. We can often become so worried about how we appear to others or what others think about us, that we will sometimes change our own thoughts and behaviors to accommodate people while compromising ourselves. Just because someone does not agree with our beliefs or actions, it does not mean they are incorrect. We may do things that we are not proud of, but the most important thing to remember, is if we make a choice, we own it, no matter what. If we cannot do so, then perhaps we should rethink our decisions.
- FAKE IT ‘TIL YOU MAKE IT– This does not imply that you should be dishonest or in-genuine about anything! Please be clear, that this expression is deeper than its literal meaning. What this means is often times, we envision how we want to present ourselves or how we want a specific situation to play out, however, we doubt our own strength and abilities and manifest our own worst case scenarios. Going into a situation that intimidates or frightens you, and attempting to “fake it ’til you make it” you act the way you would want to be seen, even if you don’t 100% feel that same inner confidence. By doing so, we show ourselves that we are much more prepared to handle the obstacles in our way and manifest an ending which is more along the lines of what we had hoped.
- AIN’T NOBODY GOT TIME FOR THAT-I’m sure everyone has seen the “Sweet Georgia Brown” YouTube video when a southern woman sees a fire behind her in her building and states, “Ain’t nobody got time for that”. We all laugh at this because in the context of her situation, it was a little misused. In terms of our own daily lives, this phrase can help us immensely. As people, when something is on our minds, we tend to perseverate and overanalyze the situation until we have come up with all of these different “what if” scenarios. By doing so, we assume the worst and build a mountain out of a molehill. If we are able to be more mindful and catch ourselves starting this negative cycle, we can remind ourselves that we don’t have time for that. We cannot control other people, but we CAN control ourselves. And if something is upsetting us, until we can obtain a resolution, obsessing over it in our minds will only cause us more harm internally and possibly affect our judgement about how to properly manage the issue.